This one's a struggle to write. Its a topic many would rather bury; in more ways than one. The pain is deeper than anything else because it shakes the very foundations of our lives, our homes, our souls.
Absent (in more than the literal sense) Fathers and son's. Please let me paraphrase from TD Jakes book, 'Loose that man & Let him go! Brace yourself.
Our young men are dying in anger and pain wondering 'what did I do to drive my daddy away (and stopped loving me?)'. A father is an image of a young man's destiny, a living testimony of what time may bring to pass. Dad is our first definition of masculinity. His absence leaves us (men) desperately looking for someone else to 'fill in the blank'. Church, drugs, porn, gangs, gay embraces, someone will have to fill the blank.
Well tailored dark suits and vibrant silk ties cannot drape the gaping void of the empty blanks in the broken hearts of men. Even the most voluptuous of fast paced and lace-clad women cannot console the anguish of masculine tears blocked and cries muffled. Broken men try to mask their hurts behind empty emblems of success but hidden behind those frail facade's are screaming hearts bound in forced silence.
Broken and hurting sons are asking their fathers for a deposit of true manhood but their fathers are bankrupt-noone has made a real deposit in them!
Healing your son, healing your father, is the same as healing yourself. To love him is to love yourself. Fathers say today my son is like warm clay waiting to be shaped into a man. He is my self, my friend, my comrade. He is my son! Chosen by my heart or fathered by my loins, he is all that I invest in him today for the challenges of tomorrow. God grant me grace for fatherhood and wisdom for parenting. Without the guidance of God helping and training me, I cannot parent my son as I should.
Son's fill the void of absent fathers. Sober him up if you must and talk with him. Love him. Fathers release the pain of your abuse, divorce and fear to God and open up your arms to your son. He's urs
Absent (in more than the literal sense) Fathers and son's. Please let me paraphrase from TD Jakes book, 'Loose that man & Let him go! Brace yourself.
Our young men are dying in anger and pain wondering 'what did I do to drive my daddy away (and stopped loving me?)'. A father is an image of a young man's destiny, a living testimony of what time may bring to pass. Dad is our first definition of masculinity. His absence leaves us (men) desperately looking for someone else to 'fill in the blank'. Church, drugs, porn, gangs, gay embraces, someone will have to fill the blank.
Well tailored dark suits and vibrant silk ties cannot drape the gaping void of the empty blanks in the broken hearts of men. Even the most voluptuous of fast paced and lace-clad women cannot console the anguish of masculine tears blocked and cries muffled. Broken men try to mask their hurts behind empty emblems of success but hidden behind those frail facade's are screaming hearts bound in forced silence.
Broken and hurting sons are asking their fathers for a deposit of true manhood but their fathers are bankrupt-noone has made a real deposit in them!
Healing your son, healing your father, is the same as healing yourself. To love him is to love yourself. Fathers say today my son is like warm clay waiting to be shaped into a man. He is my self, my friend, my comrade. He is my son! Chosen by my heart or fathered by my loins, he is all that I invest in him today for the challenges of tomorrow. God grant me grace for fatherhood and wisdom for parenting. Without the guidance of God helping and training me, I cannot parent my son as I should.
Son's fill the void of absent fathers. Sober him up if you must and talk with him. Love him. Fathers release the pain of your abuse, divorce and fear to God and open up your arms to your son. He's urs
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