Its so much easier to love and trust and give into a person you trust. Its so much easier to do what they want when they have won your heart, your trust. You are sure of their love and their intention for you. Trusting them Is almost like breathing, natural. Its easier to talk open up to them without reservation because you are reassured of their love for you
But with hearts as deceptive as ours, is this really humanly possible?
Dr Roger Houstma says “Sometimes you find a person who has the best of intentions but if you trust them, you will be in trouble because (even though they wish to) they don’t have the capacity to carry it through.
I guess he doesn’t think so. So what do you do with these people whom you love yet break your heart over and over? She said empathy, forgiveness. Hmm! Could it be pride, a judgemental attitude that made it so hard to forgive, to empathise? 48 hours, the bitter pill was swallowed. Putting myself in her shoes, would I have done any better?
He watched me struggle then watch fall flat on my face… for the umpteenth time. Did he laugh mirthlessly?(haha!Like I think many of us would have!)Did he scold me? Believe it or not, he picked me up, dusted me off gently. There was such tenderness in his eyes, his voice. It probably was there all the other times I tried, but this time round, I let my guard down and said let me try it his way. He is wiser anyway and he says he loves me. He empathised…
No. My empathy shadows in comparison to his. His is called grace. I don’t deserve the forgiveness that he gives me every single day for the things I do, I say, I think, I read, I watch, I hear, the choices I make consciously. That’s no way to repay his love for me. But he picks me up, dusts me over and I know when I am ready to learn it His way, he will be there to teach me.
Oh what relief there is hope!
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On the love and trust issue, tis indeed a mystery how we human beings deal with that. But as you say, it's easier to trust that whom you have a great connection with.