In my countless times of asking why, its dawned on me today. Its their reality.
Let me back up a bit. Why would he say one thing and do another or really not mean it? Why would he not care for his children and wife? Why would he as a leader sell his people short? Why won't the employee do their job?
These may be our expectations of them, and even obligations implied or clearly stated, that they are expected to fulfill by us but they don't see it that way. In their reality, one question is what can we do if they don't feel obliged and won't take up their responsibilities? Slang would be 'utado?'
I guess another reason is they don't feel well equipped but what happens if they can yet choose not to? Do we really have a choice with our obligations I think is what I am asking? Do we do what's expected of us as parents, spouses, siblings, employees, whoever to the best of our ability?
But reality is oftentimes we don't. To expect other to do what they should is often met with deep disappointment when they dont . To not expect them to is met with equally deep disappointment from the other party.
We could strike a balance say communicate, express our expectations but our hearts and minds fail us often times. Messages get contorted.
We could pray, hope they would treat us as they'd like us to treat them. But what if they've low self esteem and say love expressed would be met with suspicion?
Am running out of suggestions here why we don't fulfill our obligations, fulfill our word, meet expectations based on truth. Maybe stubborn hearts, maybe pride. Who's to judge why a mothers bears the burden of raising her child single handedly.
No written rules, no punitive action, no cajoling, no threats, no surgery can turn our hearts, convict our hearts but by our own conviction to love, be loyal,etc.
Above all, I believe, is a deep desire of the Masters gentle, skilful hands to work on our hearts and in effect our hands, feet, lips that we will do what we should, the best we can. Ready, open hearts for restoration.
Let me back up a bit. Why would he say one thing and do another or really not mean it? Why would he not care for his children and wife? Why would he as a leader sell his people short? Why won't the employee do their job?
These may be our expectations of them, and even obligations implied or clearly stated, that they are expected to fulfill by us but they don't see it that way. In their reality, one question is what can we do if they don't feel obliged and won't take up their responsibilities? Slang would be 'utado?'
I guess another reason is they don't feel well equipped but what happens if they can yet choose not to? Do we really have a choice with our obligations I think is what I am asking? Do we do what's expected of us as parents, spouses, siblings, employees, whoever to the best of our ability?
But reality is oftentimes we don't. To expect other to do what they should is often met with deep disappointment when they dont . To not expect them to is met with equally deep disappointment from the other party.
We could strike a balance say communicate, express our expectations but our hearts and minds fail us often times. Messages get contorted.
We could pray, hope they would treat us as they'd like us to treat them. But what if they've low self esteem and say love expressed would be met with suspicion?
Am running out of suggestions here why we don't fulfill our obligations, fulfill our word, meet expectations based on truth. Maybe stubborn hearts, maybe pride. Who's to judge why a mothers bears the burden of raising her child single handedly.
No written rules, no punitive action, no cajoling, no threats, no surgery can turn our hearts, convict our hearts but by our own conviction to love, be loyal,etc.
Above all, I believe, is a deep desire of the Masters gentle, skilful hands to work on our hearts and in effect our hands, feet, lips that we will do what we should, the best we can. Ready, open hearts for restoration.
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